Enhancing Desire in Relationships

There are some general things that couples can consider to enhance the desire in their relationships:

For females:

• romantic gestures;
• communication;
• intimacy;
• non-demand affection;
• sensuality;
• quality time with the partner; and
• low levels of conflict.

For males:

• varied lovemaking;
• novelty;
• spontaneity;
• female nudity;
• lingerie;
• erotica/porn;
• responsive partner; and
• feelings of sexual adequacy.

Couples who are experiencing issues in their sex life should seek relationship and sex counselling. Because sex is such an intimate part of the relationship, it is one of the first signs that intimacy is decreasing. This indicates a lack of communication and connection between the partners. These issues can easily be dealt with in a few counselling sessions, but it is important to act sooner rather than later because small issues tend to grow and grow when they are not dealt with.