Articles - Infidelity

By recognising the signs of sex addiction, seeking professional help, and approaching the journey towards healing with empathy and commitment, there is hope for rebuilding trust, intimacy, and a fulfilling relationship.

If you want to work through the pain of past relationships, the first thing you need to ask yourself is: Do you love yourself?

If you’ve just found out about your partner’s affair, I urge you to seek help. You might think you will be fine. You might think only time will heal your broken heart, and that you can walk this journey alone. But it's a very long and hard road.

One common misconception is that physical affairs are all about sex. And the betrayed person often blames themself for the affair, thinking “if only we’d had more sex, they wouldn’t have found it somewhere else…”

An emotional affair is when a person shares intimate and personal information about themselves with someone else who is not their partner. This includes regular contact through in-person conversations, as well as social media chats, WhatsApps and phone calls.

Have you ever wondered what a sexologist does? How do you know if you should see a sexologist? I’ve been a practicing sexologist for almost two decades, so let me share a little bit more about what I do everyday.

Your emotions will fluctuate daily. It will feel like a roller coaster ride. You’ll be sad and angry on one day, and then you’ll feel like you’ve reached a point of acceptance, only to be devastated again the next day. These emotions are NORMAL. Both partners have to go through this in order to get to a point of healing. It’s not easy to rebuild a relationship after the devastation of an affair. But it IS possible.

Couples seeking to rebuild their relationship should consult a professional relationship counsellor. It is vital to have an impartial, clear-headed person around when working through emotionally-charged issues. If you need help in dealing with infidelity in your relationship, please contact me on info@leandiebuys.co.za.

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Over the years the “not liking each other” can build up, and if issues aren’t resolved, they can smother the love.